THE OLIVE BRANCH
They say people never change but that’s bullshit, they do.
It’s been a big year, mind wise. I feel as if I’ve grown a lot (grand scheme: probably haven’t), which makes me eager to think of the person I’ll be in another few years’ time. A better one, I hope!
I’ve realised a huge part of growing up is having the ability to self-assess. Somewhat dangerous territory, as evaluation can easily segue to negative thoughts of what’s been and done. Well maybe Kylie Jenner’s 2016 concept of #RealisingStuff is revolutionary?
Everyone makes mistakes.
And I’ll hold myself accountable, absolutely. But stirring in the early hours, recalling events from 3 years ago, isn’t going to do anyone good. It’s easy to get into an absolute tizz mulling over details of a lost friendship, or past actions gone wrong, when maybe it was just our way of going through the motions?
Each year I wish I’d taken the previous one a little less seriously.
But hey, hindsight is a beautiful thing. P.S – 101 best quote, alongside the infamous, “can’t win ‘em all.” Embedding these into my daily vocab has changed my life (true story).
Staying present is bloody difficult.
I’ll remember ancient conversations nearly word for word, yet forget instantly when Mum asks me to turn the crock-pot down at 4:00 pm. Oh yeah, I still live at home, so much for growing up ha! It was advised, also by my darling Mother, that I consider amending my ‘one strike policy.’ Whereby I’d tend to cut all ties if someone dare hurt me. Which if applied (to me) by others, would likely leave me with few by my side. Again, hindsight.
Acknowledging and/or accepting past dilemmas is a great start and makes moving forward that wee bit easier. Should 22-year-old Carla be worried over what a 16-year-old Carla may have said or done once upon a time? With constant self-evaluation and reflection, she won’t need to be.
I don’t pretend to be practicing healthy thought patterns 24/7, but #Realising how much you’ve changed and developed as a human is pretty epic.